The scenario often occurs where I am speaking to a person about something I am really interested in and they do not seem to be listening to me or seem to care what it is that I am so passionate about. This usually occurs when I bring up heavy topics like the misrepresentation of beauty in society, the normalizing of androcnetricsm, or the importance of being actively anti-racist. Whenever someone seems to be ignoring me or tuning me out, I feel like my opinions are not valued or my ideas do not matter. A prominent listening barriers present were likely that the other person found my topic to be uninteresting or they have chosen to close off their mind to this topic of discussion due to its nature. Another barrier that was probably present was their failure to adjust to distraction, since they were desiring a way out of the topic of conversation. Faking attention is the other barrier to effective listening that was certain to be present in many of these frustrating situations. I can encourage myself to listen more attentively to others by assuring that even if I don't seem to be interested in the topic at hand, I can continue to keep an open mind while they are speaking. I can also be certain to limit the number of distractions that I can control while a person is speaking, and tune out other distractions instead of rudely tuning out the person speaking to me.
I have sat through a several disorganized lectures. These lectures were given to my high school English class by the teacher. This teacher never seemed to have her class planned out. It was very difficult to both pay attention and to benefit from this class. It was always hard to know what it was that I was supposed to know to for the tests and quizzes. It was also difficult to stay on beat with this instructor since she jumped from point to point to point in a rambling fashion. My classmates and I had a very difficult time learning anything from this class. I would tell a speaker who is disorganized to really plan out what they are going to say, before they have to say it with thorough points and sub-points. I would also tell aw disorganized speaker to restate and emphasize the most important points.
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Rachel-
ReplyDeleteI have the same feelings when I am so passionate and excited to share soemthing but my words are not heard. It's hard to trust someone with those ideas and thoughts that when they are not taken care of it's hard to talk about those things with that person again. I think it's so great that you make such a great effort to listen to those who may not see eye to eye as you. That grows us as people and I think we are challenged to listen intently so we can react in an effective way.